What, then, is this elusive thing called love that everyone sodesperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she isbeautiful ? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome? But this kindof "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is waiting on her PrinceCharming, is not real love. It is better known as "infatuation", andthere is a vast difference between it and real love. Here, we help youto differentiate and find out if you are really in love and not justinfatuation.
Infatuation
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also.Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love ofdevotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in reallove both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fallinto" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Guys, have you ever seena girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This isinfatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction; often youdon't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus,infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl youlove her, unless you are willing to marry her.
Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basicallyselfless . Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself andthe "feeling" than it is in the other person. Real love is primarilyinterested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Loveunselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person. Lastly,infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love isstrengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there willbe no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain inseparation if you are truly in love.
Love
Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love.
Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to waitpatiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have difficultydating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly loveher, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at thesituation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problemswhich prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patienceand understanding. Next, have you ever met someone you liked so muchthat you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster?Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time togrow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for therelationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.Love is Kind. Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respectsthe feelings and emotions of others.. It finds its greatestsatisfaction in making others happy.
You can do the following:
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2. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.
3. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.
4. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important.
5. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others.
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Love is Not Jealous
Jealousy usually indicates aninsecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, butjealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement,"If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!"Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restricther relationships with others.
Love is Not Brag
Love is not a windbag and is notanxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impressher so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does notneed to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.
Love is Not Arrogant
Love is not conceited,boastful, cocky, or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has aservant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "Ican take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You oughtto be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you." Of course,this is not love.
Love always covers
This word cover means to passover in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with the faultsof others. It doesn't criticize and broadcast to the world the faults ofothers. Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.
Love always Perseveres
Love always stands itsground and holds out. It will outlast anything. It will even love inthe face of unreturned love.Real love will last though all sorts oftrials, tribulations and stresses.
Love is Not Provoked
This means that love has along fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easilyoffended. Love does not seek its own This is the heart of love. Love isother-centered rather than self-centered. Love says, "I love you, I wantto give to you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"
Love does not act unbecomingly
This means that lovedoes not behave disgracefully, dishourable or indecently. It does notembarrass others by its action. It is characterized by tact andsensitivity. This also means that love should have good manners. Besure to do little things like opening doors for your girl, or offeringher your arm when you walk together.
Love is forgiving
Lastly, this is a MUST for asuccessful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forgetwhen his girlfriend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Lovedoesn't hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn't remainresentful. Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins.
